While we were growing up, my mom always told my sister and I that we need to do good in school. Mind you, good to her is not about us getting average marks but excellent ones. She drilled into our heads that getting medals for academic excellence is better than crowns and sashes at beauty pageants. Anyway, never naman did my sister and I think that we were beauty queen material so it was okay. We studied well, excelled in what we do and got good jobs. In short, we were getting what we wanted because yes we did well in school... by ourselves.
I had my 1st boyfriend at 18 which was pretty late considering others get them at 13. My sister had hers at 27. We are not picky, we just had different priorities. I personally never had a short serious relationship but marriage seemed to be just not there yet.
My mom got married when she was 22 so she always told us to go for what we want before we get married. We wanted to go for so many things that is why getting married took the waaaay back there seat. A lot of my family friends are getting married and so they are always asked when it will be our turn. My mom can only answer with a smile and then say "Pinamimigay ko na nga eh kaya lang ayaw pa!" Come to think of it my sister is turning 30 this year and I am turning 27, in the olden days, matandang dalaga na yun. I suppose that is no longer the case now. Whether it is because we want to do a lot of things or we cannot find the right man for us, the truth is, we just do not think it is a liability to still be unmarried. After all, I am surrounded with people older than me and unmarried. While growing up we played "office" or "teacher" but never mommy and baby, I think that already is an indication of how we wanted our adult life to be. Whenever my mom would talk about us to other people, she is happy that both of us are doing well and happily unmarried. My dad wants to have apos already but then told us that our happiness comes first, the apos can follow. So next time anybody wonders why we are unmarried, our answer to that is - We are single, loving it and the getting married part is still no. 100 in the list of 100s.
I had my 1st boyfriend at 18 which was pretty late considering others get them at 13. My sister had hers at 27. We are not picky, we just had different priorities. I personally never had a short serious relationship but marriage seemed to be just not there yet.
My mom got married when she was 22 so she always told us to go for what we want before we get married. We wanted to go for so many things that is why getting married took the waaaay back there seat. A lot of my family friends are getting married and so they are always asked when it will be our turn. My mom can only answer with a smile and then say "Pinamimigay ko na nga eh kaya lang ayaw pa!" Come to think of it my sister is turning 30 this year and I am turning 27, in the olden days, matandang dalaga na yun. I suppose that is no longer the case now. Whether it is because we want to do a lot of things or we cannot find the right man for us, the truth is, we just do not think it is a liability to still be unmarried. After all, I am surrounded with people older than me and unmarried. While growing up we played "office" or "teacher" but never mommy and baby, I think that already is an indication of how we wanted our adult life to be. Whenever my mom would talk about us to other people, she is happy that both of us are doing well and happily unmarried. My dad wants to have apos already but then told us that our happiness comes first, the apos can follow. So next time anybody wonders why we are unmarried, our answer to that is - We are single, loving it and the getting married part is still no. 100 in the list of 100s.
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